S.A.F.E. Alternatives

It is with great honor and pleasure to introduce Dr. Wendy Lader, Clinical Director of S.A.F.E. Alternatives, to write a guest blog post describing her program! Please remember that for each new user that signs up for http://www.ChronicleMe.com this week, we will make a donation to her life-saving organization. 

“S.A.F.E. ALTERNATIVES® is a nationally recognized treatment approach, professional network, and educational resource base committed to helping self-injurers put an end to their self-harm. We opened our doors in 1986 as the first acute care hospital unit designed exclusively for the treatment of self-injury.  At that time, self-injury was a little known behavior and was often confused with suicide.  Many of our clients were hospitalized each and every time they self-injured and were often institutionalized for years at a time.  We knew there had to be a more efficacious and compassionate way to treat these behaviors. We recognized that the behavior did not define the person and that people who utilized these behaviors were not crazy, but rather trying to cope with intense emotional states.

Unlike many treatment models, the S.A.F.E. ALTERNATIVES® philosophy respects the autonomy and choice-making capacities of the individual. It is not an authoritarian model; we don’t believe that helpers can or should take all the responsibility for keeping the self-injurer safe. Ultimately, the self-injurer must be empowered to learn to keep themselves safe. In order to get well, there must be a shift in the locus of responsibility from the helper, to the one being helped. The helping relationship is a partnership, not a “parental” relationship. At S.A.F.E., we try to create a “culture of safety” in which the injurer comes to realize that self-injury destroys relationships, but safety brings people closer to them. We also do not employ infantilizing, restricting methods of behavior control, which reinforce the individual’s sense of helplessness and powerlessness.

Since 1986 S.A.F.E. has treated thousands of clients in both residential and outpatient settings.  We have also provided information and support to thousands more. 

To find out more about what S.A.F.E. ALTERNATIVES® has to offer please visit us at www.selfinjury.com or call the 800- DONTCUT information line .  We offer a free informational video for parents, a monitored blog as well as a variety of resources for clients their loved ones and professionals including a list of therapists from around the country who work with clients who self-injure.”




Judgement Free Environment

Judgement Free Enviornment

One http://www.chronicleme.com user recently wrote us:

“ChronicleMe has had significant positive impact on my life. There are things I would like to say or let out sometimes that I just can’t do on facebook, or that I’d generally rather say anonymously to random people than to people I know. It’s nice to just let out thoughts or share personal life situations without being judged.”

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Authenticity and Vulnerability

ImageEach day, secrets are greeted by the ChronicleMe.com community with positive feedback. These posts come in different sizes, attitudes, and viewpoints. The freedom of anonymity allows for people to post what they really feel without fear of judgment, resulting in utter authenticity and vulnerability.

National Self Injury Awareness Day

ChronicleMe.com is pleased to partner with S.A.F.E Alternatives, the world-renowned treatment program which has helped thousands of people successfully end self-injurious behavior.

March 1st is National Self Injury Awareness Day. From February 24th to March 3rd, ChronicleMe will donate one dollar to S.A.F.E. for each new user that signs up. Please help us by inviting your friends to www.chronicleme.com through text, email, and/or social media. Campaign details are available on our Facebook and Twitter pages.

On behalf of ChronicleMe and S.A.F.E. Alternatives, thank you for your potentially life-saving generosity.

S.A.F.E Alternatives

Selective Exposure on ChronicleMe.com

As a community we provide a safe and positive place to express secrets.

On ChronicleMe.com, you are in complete control of your post. You dictate when you post, to whom you post, and what you post, all anonymously. However, you have the opportunity to selectively expose your identity to other users when they give you feedback. You make the decisions based on your secrets, your circumstances, and your comfort level.

We call this the “freedom of anonymity.”

What will you do with yours?

‘Seek Help’ Feature

On behalf of all of us at ChronicleMe, I would like to thank each user for giving positive feedback on anonymous posts. Because of the site’s anonymity and positivity, we are finding that people are posting about life’s greatest challenges: addiction, abuse, sexuality, alcoholism, domestic violence, suicide, and more. As a community we have greeted these posts with kindness, support, and empathy. It is very humbling and powerful to see that although each user on CMe is anonymous, members of the community are still making a personal and significant difference in other users’ lives.

Since ChronicleMe’s conception, the members have come together to help users by requesting for them to “seek help.” For those who do not know, the ChronicleMe Resource Page is filled with different life-saving organizations that are eager to speak with and/or help any user in need. Examples include the National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN.org), GLBT National Help Center (GLNH.org), End to Cyberbullying Organization (Endcyberbullying.org), and the self-injury hotline (selfinjury.com). We are proud and honored to list these organizations as resources.

As we continue to grow, we must remember to take the “seek help” button seriously. If used correctly, it could change someone’s life and connect them with a life-saving resource. One day, that user may return the favor.

Thank you again.

Anonymously yours,

Anthony Richichi

CEO and Founder