My name is Maria Camelo and I am a on mission to spread gratitude, kindness and compassion wherever I go. Until a year ago I was a lost soul, depressed, clueless, ungrateful, and constantly negative. I am grateful to say that is NOT the person I am anymore! The power of gratitude, positive thinking, and rediscovering my faith has changed my life in less than a year. I started my blog to share my stories with anyone else who might be going through something I’ve been through, and inspire others to not give up no matter how hard life seems to be. I write a lot about my childhood expierences and how they affect me now or how they shaped me to think / act the way I do now. I try to inspire others to be the best they can be, and to follow their own path, and create their own molds. I believe everyone has a purpose and has been put here for a reason. I struggled with figuring out what my purpose was most of my life, but after opening my heart and soul, I am getting a much better idea of my purpose. It took me awhile to realize everything I went through my entire life was to prepare me for my adult life, all the dark paths I took and the lessons I learned, were to be able to help others going through the same thing. I grew up in a small town, in a catholic school with a gay parent, that was not easy! I was bullied and picked on most of my youth. I am a survivor of sexual assult, took me awhile to be able to say that, I have yet to write about it. I am a mother, wife, daughter, sister, and friend. If I can inspire one person to live a happier, more grateful life I will feel like I’ve done my “job”. I am beyond blessed and grateful for my life turn around and can’t wait to see what I bring to the future! www.begrateful19.blogspot.com
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Compare and Despair: How to Stop Sizing Yourself Up Against Other People
When we come home for the holidays, many of us encounter family members and former classmates we do not see very often. We can’t help but look at their lives and compare them to our own.
Maybe you have a golden boy sibling for whom everything seems easy, or a childhood friend whose career and gorgeous offspring make you feel like a loser. Holiday homecoming, combined with end-of-year reflection, can make you size yourself up against others and, inevitably, find that you come up short.
If you want to stop the misery of comparing yourself to others, your first defense is to recognize how unfair it is. Because the only mind we can read is our own, we tend to pit the worst in ourselves against the best in other people, and we don’t stand a chance in the fight.
In order to compare two things, metrics are required. Ask yourself, what standards are you using for comparison? Financial stability? Life milestones achieved? Fitness level? Can you accurately measure these things in other people? When you break down the standards you are using, you will often find that they are superficial. Is your self-worth really determined by homeownership or marriage or being thin?
Everyone has different challenges and struggles, therefore the definition of success is different for everyone. We have to acknowledge our successes instead of discounting the good things in our lives because they aren’t as good as what other people have. When you catch yourself feeling crappy, remind yourself of something good that happened for you or that you did in 2014. There is inevitably something to be proud of, so recognize it!
If you had a pair of cookies on a plate from two different recipes, your experience would automatically turn from enjoying the treats as they are to comparing the two. It is human nature to perceive reality in terms of contrasts, so the best way to eliminate comparison is to eliminate the thing we are using for comparison. In other words, to eat the cookie and enjoy the cookie alone for what it is. This does not mean murdering your siblings and friends (even if that sounds appealing)—it means to view yourself as being on an independent journey, not a race. Compare yourself only to yourself.
Feelings of intense jealousy and inferiority are a problem of perception, so consider reframing the way you see other the successes of other people. Envy is often a side-effect of scarcity thinking: we unconsciously believe that there is only so much happiness to go around, and if someone else has found it that means there is less of it left for us. Try to remember that the world is full of great opportunities, and that there is plenty of happiness for everyone to have a piece. Whether or not you feel like your piece is big enough, know that the Grand Pie is bigger than you can imagine, and there is plenty left for you.
If feelings of low self-esteem persist, they are sometimes a signal that we have to change something in our lives. If you have a healthy attitude toward the successes of other people, but your dissatisfaction with yourself remains, take a look at whether a positive change is needed. Perhaps your feeling of not being good enough is a sign you should find a new career path, quit a self-destructive habit, or otherwise improve yourself. Practice rigorous self-honesty. Every day is an opportunity to become the person you want to be, whether it is simply your attitude that needs changing, or something more.
Mandy Learo is a yoga teacher, blogger, and ChronicleMe community member living and working in Central New York. Read more of her writing at oknamaste.com.
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5 Outside Factors That Contribute To Overall Positivity
Hey, my name is Ryan. I’m 21 and married to the love of my life and we have a beautiful daughter. I love to write about positive things such as healthy eating, fitness, children, and even positivity itself on my blog, Thriving Lion “Naturally Healthy”.
While staying positive is a very agreed upon way to have a long, healthy, and happy life, there are a few outside factors that can contribute to your positivity, and overall happiness in life. If taken care of individually, your ability to keep your glass half full instead of half empty will sky-rocket!
Being careful of what you eat, and aware of what you’re putting in your body, is a great place to start to increase your ability to stay happy and positive. Eating fresh fruits and veggies, and keeping a balanced diet, will increase energy levels, keep you focused, and ultimately contribute to a happier and healthier life.
Clean and Declutter
Keeping a clean living space, workplace, and house is a great way to promote cleanliness, health, and optimism. I find that when my office space is clean, I have better ideas, think clearly, and my work flow and overall happiness increase.
Staying physically active promotes a feeling of self-worth, and helps keep self esteem high, and in turn positive thinking flows freely. Physical activity has been used to treat anti-positive psychological health such as depression and anxiety and proves to be a great way to stay happy and healthy.
Talk To Someone
Having that one relationship where you can speak freely and tell them everything on your mind is a great resource to have when trying to stay positive, happy, and healthy. If an issue in your life is not immediately resolved, having a friend who will take your side and listen to your story will help you solve the problem without ever facing direct confrontation with the original dispute. Use close friends and family to vent and talk to them about your issues.
One of the most important things that you can always do to stay optimistic is to make sure that you do the things that you love often. Having hobbies that relieve stress, focus thoughts, and contribute to your overall happiness is key when trying to live a happy life.
Stay Positive, Stay Happy, Live and Learn
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When you post to ChronicleMe, you are anonymous by default. If you feel especially proud of a specific post, however, and want to share with your friends, then you can ‘claim’ your anonymous content.
When you press ‘claim’ on one of your posts, it is added to your profile for your friends to see. The post is no longer anonymous as all of your friends and fellow community members can now follow its content.
Every ChronicleMe user will be given a user score. Your user score is determined on how you perform in your communities. If you are negative, abusive, or inappropriate, your grade will go down. If you are positive, your score will go up. When you request to join communities, your score will be given to the community admin as they make their decision to either deny or accept you.Your user score will also be seen by your friends.
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But what if you want to expose your identity to another person? What if you have been through a similar situation and want to engage in deeper conversation? What if you want to meet the person, connect with the person, or simply give a gesture that you are there for support?
The ‘Reveal’ functionality on ChronicleMe’s new platform is the solution.
For any other users posts, you can ‘Reveal’ yourself, notifying the person who posted about your first and last name. From here the person can friend you on ChronicleMe and reach out to you if they need your help.
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